‘Every orientation presupposes a disorientation’ -Hans Magnus Enzensberger
Disorientation comes when we least expect it, its perplexities a timely reminder that life is mysteriously unpredictable and confusing at the best of times.
Discomfort and uncertainty arrive on our doorstep as the uninvited guest who is intent on disturbing the self prescribed equilibrium that we understand as normative.
The purpose of this interruption is to reset our understanding of stability as a static reality. It would seem that the journey of maturation and evolution is one of constant interruption, a pilgrimage that flexes and bends to suit the current emerging reality.
As providence moves me towards the best version of myself there is a need for some deconstruction which is the precursor for the new-orientation that is lurking in the shadows. The old ways of being that were previously helpful have become more restrictive as the approaching grace for change appears.
Unlearning those old habits and behaviours is the hidden agenda of disorientation as it moves me through the liminal territory of transition. That which is ingrained in me as an old habit becomes a blind spot if I do not open my eyes and embrace the emerging divulgence.
The cultural environments that have defined our reality play a huge part in shaping our perspective on life. Our familial interactions can often get in the way of moving us into the next chapter of our unfolding story or conversely they can encourage us to take the plunge into the new unknown. The projected fears and fascinations of our fellow humans are our greatest ally or contrastingly our adversarial foe.
When we are in a state of disorientation everything is up for grabs and open to new interpretation, a hopeful forerunner of the possible newness. Learning to embrace the difficulty of this intermediary space will help determine your preparation for the next stage of your journey. The darkness that we feel as we move through the valley of the unknown is an invitation to embrace the mystery of trust as it does its work of kismet in our life.
The new coping mechanisms of trust that we adopt in the time of disorientation comes from the comfort and consolation that serendipity brings to our pilgrimage, the timely reminder that what we see or become overly anxious about is not all that is going on.
In the confusion we stay with each other, happy to be together, speaking without uttering a single word. - Walt Whitman
The valley of disorientation is not a fast sprint but a slow walk. We often try to move through discomfort rather quickly due to the perfectly legitimate aversion to pain that is hardwired into our system. Unfortunately the protracted nature of change works to its own rhythm and time frame.
While keeping one eye on the road stay alert and attentive to your fellow pilgrims who might be on the same path, a reassuring reminder you that you are not alone in experiencing excessive anxiety unaccompanied. In a strange kind of way we all like to think that others are struggling with the same things we are…maybe misery does love company after all? When I hear the travel stories of others who have gone before me I find the courage to continue and confidence to know that things may well work out in the end.
Be patient the new-orientation is coming...