'When I am alone I get a little scared sometimes’ - anon
Everyone has times when they are a little scared about the circumstances they find themselves in, wondering and worrying if things will work out ok. The unpredictability of life is a constant reminder that our fear of the unknown is a dominant force that plagues and pummels our consciousness. It would seem that our brains are hard-wired to constantly evaluate the positive and negative possibilities of any and every scenario. This fickle and fragile thinking is an instinctive part of our core design, a reminder that the optimistic and pessimistic leanings of our innate constitution have a huge say in how we process the unforeseen on an ongoing basis.
The positivity gurus try to teach us nifty techniques in order to annihilate our fears, or at least quell their overpowering influence on our disposition which can be helpful but not altogether liberating in the long run. Fear is here to stay, regardless of what techniques you learn, you may just need to learn how to cope with it differently. Being scared is reminder of your need to find safety and support in the moment. Its not our enemy but a friend who is trying to protect us against undue risk and remind us to listen to our intuition.
Fear not only elevates your nervous energy causing you to catastrophize in the moment but in a strange kind of way it can also have the reverse affect of enlarging your hopefulness. Hopefulness says that weeping can last for a season but joy comes in the morning, a reminder that you have a future even when you present is falling apart. It is the antidote for fear because it has the ability to find light in your darkness and strength in your weakness, even when you can't see it.
As a young child I was petrified of the dark and somehow convinced that something or some one was out to get me. My imagination would dream up outrageous possibilities of harm while somehow hoping for a rescuer of some kind.
'Fear not for I am with you’ was the ancient mantra of our forefathers and mothers who needed a constant reminder that the soothing presence of otherness was always close by. That presence which we historically call ‘God' came in many forms, a song that would start singing to interrupt our thoughts, the arm of friend who empathises with your pain or a sign from mother nature that you are part of a universal protectorate.
When you get scared don’t try to will it away or ignore its reality, look for the hope that hides in its shadowy corner waiting to make itself known.
“If you don't learn how to be scared, you'll never really learn how to be brave.”
― Simon Holt, The Devouring